Job Description for Family Coordinator

Betsy Taylor, 2001

 

 

Before the Conference:

 

  1. Recruit facilitators (about 22).
  2. Inform facilitators of time and place of training meeting, usually held on Sunday afternoon, and motivate them to come.
  3. But pad of large drawing paper for family lists, post-it labels that can be peeled off and restuck, and a fine tipped felt marker.  Be sure there are extra blank 4 x 6 cards for newcomers' names.
  4. Go over family facilitators' handbooks to be sure they are up-to-date and that there are enough of them.
  5. Plan family facilitator training with co-chairs.  Be thoughtful and intentional about what the goals of the training are.  It is helpful to practice listening skills and discuss how families differ from therapy groups.

 

At the Conference:

 

A:  Do training.

 

B:  Launch families.

1.     Get list of people who have registered from registrar.  Clarify ages of teens who will be in families (vs. Youth Program or Teen Family), names of children's program teachers (so you won't put them in a family), general ages or special needs of newcomers (mobility, etc.), people who are missing more than 1 day.

2.     Pair up facilitators in good working duos, experienced folks paired with new facilitators.  Let facilitators know ASAP who they will be working with so they can plan their first family meeting together.  (At least before breakfast, earlier if possible)

3.     Find one or two facilitators for the transitional family.  Same person for the whole week is good.  If there is a shortage, ask someone who is in the transitional family.

4.     Divide conferees into family groupings of about 10, being attentive to gender, age and newcomer/old-timer distribution and spreading out bio/step/adoptive family members.  Assign rain spaces.

5.     List each family (with rain space) on large paper.  Use peel-off labels if possible as there is always some moving around of people that happens last minute.  Post in Gould Sunday night or before breakfast Monday morning.  Someone can be available Mon am to facilitate resolution of complaints/conflicts.

6.     Make list of family members for each pair of facilitators.

7.     After Conference Hour, find a way to get families together with their facilitators.  Be creative.  This can verge on bedlam.  Emphasize quiet.  In 2001 it worked well to have each pair of facilitators stand, read family members, sit back down and no one go anywhere until all the families have been read.  Be attentive to the needs of newcomers who may not know anyone in the group (might each group have a color?)  Be sure to announce the transitional family as well.

8.     Take down the lists as soon as it makes sense, after all family members have arrived, to help protect confidentiality.

 

C:  Transitional Family.

1.     Be sure there is a list posted for transitional family that will remain up all week with rain space and facilitator(s) name(s).

2.     Each day after conference hour, invite people who have just arrived to meet at a designated place (front of the room?) with Trans Fam Facil. (This is another logistical moment that can use creative management.

 

D:  Family Facilitators' daily meetings

 

These are generally held 4:45-5:45 near the source of evening refreshments.  See if someone can unlock, so cold drinks can be available.

It is important that this meeting not fall into a recounting of the morning or a focus on particular problem personalities.  It helps, at the beginning of the week (training and first meeting) to establish a culture of learning, increasing qualities of presence, acceptance and speaking from the first person (I statements).

            We found it useful to begin with 5 minutes or so for pairs of facilitators to check in with each other about that day/s family meeting, then have a few minutes of silence to gather and reflect on what might be needed from the whole group, then build an agenda.

            Content can follow a few different channels depending on your wishes and the wishes/needs of the group.

1.     Explore facilitator's own process as they are getting caught, stumped, annoyed, lost, etc.

2.     Skill building in regards to various aspects of facilitation or aspects of group rhythm (joining, deepening, need for closure and preparation for reentry into larger world).  This can also include games, family "portraits", use of role play, closing rituals, etc.

The last day is a good time for celebration, gratitude for the energy the facilitators have invested in the week, and some kind of closing retual.